There’s a lot of talk of pimping over at Roissy’s citizen renegade blog.
In the past I’ve always thought that terms such as “pimp my ride” and such were ghastly – you’re talking about the act of exploiting women’s sexual value for your own financial profit.
You can look at it from two ways – it’s despicably exploitative but it is also undeniably dominant. There is a fraction of the commenters – who though coming from a racist angle which is possibly even more despicable, look down on it as lower class, disempowered behaviour that they want no part of.
I do believe that most normal girls really don’t have the low self esteem required for dominant men to manipulate them into selling their bodies, and I don’t see that as something I’d ever aspire to, it’s dishonourable. But that doesn’t mean that there isn’t value in the subtle messages being conveyed here. This is not about aspiring to exploit women sexually it’s about tools and resources to become dominant. My view in the world is that the golden rule has very little value and we are all in constant conflict and friction with forces that conspire and attempt to hold us in place, dominate and exploit us.
Women, children, to high status white males, we’re no difference, we will get away with whatever we can if there is no force to hold us in place and that is where the principals of pimping come in. Acting dominant is going to rub people the wrong way, especially the more dominat ones who feel threatened and challenged. This is the problem I anticipate that I’m going to have to be strong and learn to face off against people who are not happy with my dominant behaviour.
It’s going to be a challenge enough as it is to learn to behave in a dominating way and reverse all the politeness and niceties I have ingrained in my behaviour and the feelings of panic and anxiety caused by conflict. But it is so essential to stand your ground, take the bluster of your competitors head on and ride it out. I believe my intelligence and discipline makes me a good candidate for alpha credibility but consistently my deferring behaviour lets me down and sends signals to others that
The fact that I present as quite non threatening is good for some things, but is not good for sexual attraction and social dominance.
The point is firstly, doing as I please, not really thinking too much about other people’s “feelings”, and when people get unruly, not being afraid to go all out, all or nothing, and just tell them to fuck off. Fuck off out of my life. This is what I notice with so many confrontations is that other people will say things they don’t mean because they’re upset, whereas I won’t say the things I mean because I’m afraid things will go to far and I want a resolution.
What I see is that if I throw down, sure I may lose some friends, sure, I may get a reputation, but some people will start to come under my domain, which is appropriate.
In the past year or so I’ve struggled with idea of dominant idiots – people who are the opposite of me – very socially dominant but not very smart, and how they create problems. The only solution is for people like me to become socially dominant and be smart enough to redress the imbalances.
I’m learning how to push on from not taking shit from anyone but I don’t see myself ever resorting to out and out domination displays, it’s just not me. For now whenever someone gets unruly I have to be ready to show them I mean business, and that’s a guy or girl. That I don’t care, I’d sooner not see someone who has crossed the line ever again, or have any further dealings, and while I tend to hide the fact I carry that coldness because I thought it a bad thing to show people how little I’m committed to them, in a lot of cases I think it might be beneficial.
Of course it may push some away but hey, we’ve got to be aware and open to the principal – if someone is pissing me off, whether male or female, they can fuck off, I will tell them so, and if they don’t like it, I don’t care. I can take care of myself.
Otherwise I will judge every situation on it’s own merits.
okay well I don’t really want to be doing this but hey. What’s the worst that can happen?
I don’t tick all the boxes on your checklist? oh boo hoo
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